We're just inside of six months left and I feel like I've got the trivial stuff out of the way, you know, things like decor, clothes and the like. It's more like I've planned all the things that Lawrence doesn't care about. Recently, he and I have been discussing things that he does care about. One of these things was the whole name change thing.
Growing up, I was one of those girls who wrote their name with the last name of boys they thought were cute. You know, Amy _____. I guess I always thought I'd change my last name when I got married. But, like most things about the wedding and marriage, as I grew up, my opinion changed. I'm not really against taking Lawrence's last name but there is a part of me that has her identity tied to my current last name. I have had it for the past 25 years. There's also a part of me that's a feminist, who thinks it's not right for the woman to take the man's name. So recently I suggested to Lawrence that instead of me taking his name or me hyphenating or simply keeping my last name, that we both change our last name.
I honestly thought Lawrence would be absolutely against it, since he's very much a traditionalist but to my surprise, he was interested in my proposal. I guess it was the way I explained that we were creating a new family together, not just me becoming part of his, that won him over (mostly)
We still have time to figure it out though.